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You have Crabs

My son and I were having a rather  detailed discussion the other day about heads and growing up.

Apparently my head is short, his is long (We were laying down in bed and he was higher up than me, so this meant his head was longer), but he informed me that it would be ok, because as I grew into a ‘baby’ my head would get longer.

He’s 5 years old.

I asked him about growing up and what he meant and he informed me that when me and daddy grow up, we will turn into babies, and he knows this because his grandparents told him when they were toddlers.

I wanted to know if I was in safe hands with him for when I became a child/baby and he said I would be safe and he would look after me.
He said ‘Of course I will look after you, you will be in my tummy’.
Duh, how silly of me to ask you ūüėČ lol
He added ‘You’ll be safe in my tummy because the crabs put you in there’
Excuse me?

My son comes out with the weirdest things lol.  I must remember to blog these down every time they happen!

Are you letting your children out for Halloween?

Every year this comes about, the big debate on whether or not we should allow our children to do Halloween.

Trick or Treating is just a form of begging. ¬†It’s teaching our children that it’s ok to knock on strangers doors. ¬†We teach our children to never accept things off of strangers.

I agree with it all, but I contradict myself every year and I allow my children to go out and Trick or Treat in our area.

Why? ¬†Because it’s a tradition. ¬†It’s something I did as a child, something my husband did as a child.

We’re not religious, we just do this as a bit of fun. ¬†It’s something that the children look forward to, not just the treats, but to dress up, to go to¬†Halloween¬†parties etc.

My children will not be going on their own until a few years time and hopefully another mother will agree to allow their child out with a group of friends lol.

We never do trick and if anyone asks they just say ‘we’ve been brought up better than that’ or ‘we’re not horrible kids’, that usually gets a smile off of the household lol.

I’ve never done this on my own with the kids, usually my husband is with them and I wait at the end of the garden lol.

Halloween.

You’ve seen many movies or TV series about supernatural/underworld, even a film called Spooky Buddies (something like that lol) shows that on the Eve of All Saints Day the barrier between our world and the spirit world is at it’s weakest and that spirits break free into our world and roam the earth – hence why you have people dressing up as witches, ghosts etc.

The tradition of going from door to door¬†receiving¬†food already existed in Great Britain and Ireland in the form of ‘Souling’, where children and poor people would sing and say prayers for the dead in return for cakes. ¬†Guising – children disguised in costumes going from door to door for food and coins – also¬†predates¬†trick or treat, and is recorded in Scotland at Halloween in 1895, where masqueraders in disguise carrying lanterns made out of scooped turnips visit homes to be rewarded with cakes, fruit and money. ¬†(sourced online)

I guess Souling and Halloween (Celtic belief) just merged into the two.

Children need to grow

I’ve just been reading a blog and it got me thinking about me and my children. ¬†Let the children go

My daughter is nearly 8 years old and I’ve been¬†criticised¬†twice (to my face, goodness knows how much behind my back) because recently I’ve allowed my daughter to walk to school on her own – it’s a 45 second walk. ¬†In fact, once she’s left, I’m usually out of the door within a minute to take my son to school and so I can see my daughter near the gate or in the playground.

At her age I was taking myself and my younger sister to school and it was a much longer walk.

I want her to get her independence, to be aware of things around her. ¬†We’ve taught both our children not to talk to strangers, we’ve taught them that they should never go down dark places, to always avoid that and go down well lit places – of course my children are not at the stage where we are allowing them out that late or too far, but it’s good to keep them in the know.

We’ve allowed our daughter to go to the shop and that was about a 3 minute walk and I’ll be honest, I was sh!tting myself and so I told my husband to follow her. ¬†He did and our daughter did well. ¬†I got worried because like every other mother, I’ve read the horror stories in the media. ¬†I’m a paranoid mother would you believe it! ¬†But I believe that I shouldn’t keep them locked up inside or wrapped up in cotton wool.

I wont allow my children to wonder too far, they have to be able to hear me and vice versa, my son is too young and he’s not allowed out anywhere past my line of sight. ¬†There are some parents who allow 5 year olds to be out wandering around estates etc and I’m a bit to scared to allow that myself, and perhaps it isn’t a sensible thing to do – I don’t know! ¬†Each to their own.

Another thing is, you’ve got me and my sister who were ‘street wise’ while growing up, we used to go out as soon as we woke up and come in when the street lights came on. ¬†Our parents always knew who we were with and always knew we would be back in time. ¬†We used to wonder around all over the place.
Then you’ve got my other sister and brother, and that’s a different story completely. ¬†I don’t know why but my other sister and brother were never allowed to do anything like this. ¬†We all moved to a different place and I guess you’d call it a ‘snobbish’ area. ¬†My dad had got work and we went from a council estate to a new ‘upper class’ area – not that we were rich or upper class lol, just lucky. ¬†So I guess my mother decided to ‘act’ like the other mothers did, or perhaps this was when times were changing slowly to what they are now. ¬†Mothers there didn’t seem to allow their children out to play unless they were with them, they didn’t have friends showing up at the door asking if ‘Jimmy’ was coming out to play. ¬†Now it was all phone calls and organised play-dates etc.

Me and my sister would go on public transport on our own or together when we were about 13 years old (I think) but my other sister didn’t until she was 17 and my brother is 15 and still hasn’t. ¬†They were both sheltered and I don’t think they have the confidence me and our other sister have.

Waiting for the ‘Bad Mother’ Label to come my way lol.

I don’t ask my daughter to go off and do the weekly shop, I don’t tell her to go out and play where ever she wants, however as she gets older, I will allow her to go and play further out a field, perhaps I should now, but as I’ve said, I’m a nervous mother lol.


						
					

99 Days Until Christmas! Oh no…

Pay day today (weekly pay), and so we’re going to have to buy some more christmas presents.¬† It’s a bit depressing lol.

For people who are on monthly pay will have around 3 pay days left – sounding even more depressing.

What are your ideas and thoughts for this year?

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