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You have Crabs

My son and I were having a rather  detailed discussion the other day about heads and growing up.

Apparently my head is short, his is long (We were laying down in bed and he was higher up than me, so this meant his head was longer), but he informed me that it would be ok, because as I grew into a ‘baby’ my head would get longer.

He’s 5 years old.

I asked him about growing up and what he meant and he informed me that when me and daddy grow up, we will turn into babies, and he knows this because his grandparents told him when they were toddlers.

I wanted to know if I was in safe hands with him for when I became a child/baby and he said I would be safe and he would look after me.
He said ‘Of course I will look after you, you will be in my tummy’.
Duh, how silly of me to ask you ūüėČ lol
He added ‘You’ll be safe in my tummy because the crabs put you in there’
Excuse me?

My son comes out with the weirdest things lol.  I must remember to blog these down every time they happen!

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Children need to grow

I’ve just been reading a blog and it got me thinking about me and my children. ¬†Let the children go

My daughter is nearly 8 years old and I’ve been¬†criticised¬†twice (to my face, goodness knows how much behind my back) because recently I’ve allowed my daughter to walk to school on her own – it’s a 45 second walk. ¬†In fact, once she’s left, I’m usually out of the door within a minute to take my son to school and so I can see my daughter near the gate or in the playground.

At her age I was taking myself and my younger sister to school and it was a much longer walk.

I want her to get her independence, to be aware of things around her. ¬†We’ve taught both our children not to talk to strangers, we’ve taught them that they should never go down dark places, to always avoid that and go down well lit places – of course my children are not at the stage where we are allowing them out that late or too far, but it’s good to keep them in the know.

We’ve allowed our daughter to go to the shop and that was about a 3 minute walk and I’ll be honest, I was sh!tting myself and so I told my husband to follow her. ¬†He did and our daughter did well. ¬†I got worried because like every other mother, I’ve read the horror stories in the media. ¬†I’m a paranoid mother would you believe it! ¬†But I believe that I shouldn’t keep them locked up inside or wrapped up in cotton wool.

I wont allow my children to wonder too far, they have to be able to hear me and vice versa, my son is too young and he’s not allowed out anywhere past my line of sight. ¬†There are some parents who allow 5 year olds to be out wandering around estates etc and I’m a bit to scared to allow that myself, and perhaps it isn’t a sensible thing to do – I don’t know! ¬†Each to their own.

Another thing is, you’ve got me and my sister who were ‘street wise’ while growing up, we used to go out as soon as we woke up and come in when the street lights came on. ¬†Our parents always knew who we were with and always knew we would be back in time. ¬†We used to wonder around all over the place.
Then you’ve got my other sister and brother, and that’s a different story completely. ¬†I don’t know why but my other sister and brother were never allowed to do anything like this. ¬†We all moved to a different place and I guess you’d call it a ‘snobbish’ area. ¬†My dad had got work and we went from a council estate to a new ‘upper class’ area – not that we were rich or upper class lol, just lucky. ¬†So I guess my mother decided to ‘act’ like the other mothers did, or perhaps this was when times were changing slowly to what they are now. ¬†Mothers there didn’t seem to allow their children out to play unless they were with them, they didn’t have friends showing up at the door asking if ‘Jimmy’ was coming out to play. ¬†Now it was all phone calls and organised play-dates etc.

Me and my sister would go on public transport on our own or together when we were about 13 years old (I think) but my other sister didn’t until she was 17 and my brother is 15 and still hasn’t. ¬†They were both sheltered and I don’t think they have the confidence me and our other sister have.

Waiting for the ‘Bad Mother’ Label to come my way lol.

I don’t ask my daughter to go off and do the weekly shop, I don’t tell her to go out and play where ever she wants, however as she gets older, I will allow her to go and play further out a field, perhaps I should now, but as I’ve said, I’m a nervous mother lol.


						
					

99 Days Until Christmas! Oh no…

Pay day today (weekly pay), and so we’re going to have to buy some more christmas presents.¬† It’s a bit depressing lol.

For people who are on monthly pay will have around 3 pay days left – sounding even more depressing.

What are your ideas and thoughts for this year?

The Teachers Site….Give them a break!

Everyone has an opinion about this, so I’ll give my little bit too.

Of course I understand the upset and mess-up of working parents who will now have to have a day off or arrange for childcare, but we were given notice – most of us anyway.
My son is home today but my daughter is at school, they go to the same school and it is only the early years that is effected, but the school has tried it’s best to keep as many classes open for children.

Many people are saying that the teachers are selfish, that they shouldn’t be on strike, that they should count themselves lucky that they have a job in these situations, but I would bet anything that if the shoe was on the other foot, these ‘complainers’ would be in uproar.

In the ATL’s 127 year history this is the FIRST NATIONAL STRIKE they’ve every had.

These teachers went into a job where they had a certain pension plan etc and now find that this could be changed for them.  I would be pretty peeved too.

So far I’m FREE

I’ve suffered since I was 16 with depression and most of that time I refused to take tablets.¬† I managed to fight my way through it and was fine until after having our daughter.¬† I had Post Natal depression with our daughter and refused to acknowledge there was a problem.

Later on after I felt a bit better, we tried and became pregnant with our son.  I then had Ante-natal depression and had never felt anything like it before!  I decided I needed help this time and waited MONTHS to be referred, I was finally referred AFTER I had our son and then my depression was classed as Post-Natal Depression.

I got help, I saw someone weekly and took tablets.¬† It’s been 4 years and I’m fantastic, and I’ve decided to wean myself off of my anti-depressants.

I would like to say that no matter what, you MUST remember that this is not your fault and that you can ask for help!  YOU are the only one who can make the change, and you must first acknowledge that you are ill.
I took the first step and asked for help and I wish I’d done it sooner!¬† I still have my off-days but I’m happy most of the days……unless I’ve started a hormonal contraception and that’s another story!

Hello People of WordPress :)

Well hello people of WordPress ūüôā

I didn’t really know what to call myself, so I figured, after watching The Biggest Loser Australia, I’d name myself after something I’d never heard before – Fairy Bread.

Turns out it’s just butter bread with a load of Hundreds and Thousands on it – a bit bizarre if you ask me lol.

Anyway, this is my blog, and it’s just about how I’m feeling as a person, as a wife and as a mother.

I’ve been on a rocky road with depression and negativity, but I’ve been on the right track for a few years now, although I do still have a few ups and downs.

My marriage is good, although there are a few issues with things like parenting views, we are still in love after 11 years and we have trust which is a big factor.

Our children are¬†of Primary school age, and although I have the urge to produce another one, I know that in my head I can’t yet.¬† I had Post Natal depression with both my children, and Ante-natal depression with my son, and I don’t think I could go through all of that again.

Anyway, I hope you all have good day x

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